’90 Day Fiance’: Darcey and Jesse – Sad and Desperate Couple?

90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days is a show that offers up the desperation of the lovelorn with Darcey Silva as one of the better examples. After falling in love online with Jesse Meester from Amsterdam, the two continue on with a relationship which is rather explosive at times.

90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days – Filled With Desperation?

Darcey and Jesse offer the perfect example of what happens when the fantasy of online love comes crashing down around you in person. 90 Day Fiance has an entertainment value. But it is entertaining the folks at home at the extent of some very sad and desperate people in this world.

With that said, it is hard to tell which one is more desperate when it comes to this couple. Is it Darcey who moaned and cried about how she wants to be loved on screen? Or is it Jesse for putting up with Darcey pushing him to the altar despite the constant insults and bickering between the two?

Darcey Silva Itching for Engagement Ring

Darcey, 42, left Amsterdam with a promise ring when she visited Jesse, 24, in his homeland. Today she is itching for an upgrade – the woman wants an engagement ring.

With Jesse now in her Connecticut hometown with her, she’s pushing this in his face with her frequent remarks. While love is the premise of 90 Day Fiance, it looks like Darcey may have another agenda in mind as well.

90 Day Fiance Just Another Gig for Professional Fame Hunter?

The middle-aged woman from New England is no stranger when it comes to hunting for fame. Along with her twin sister Stacey, she released a “dance party” song called Lock your Number at the beginning of the month. Her main source of income is the clothing design company, which she owns with her twin sister.

Their designer label, House of Eleven, offers celebrity designer clothes. The sisters’ creations were worn by Nicki Minaj, Demi Lovato, and Jessica Alba in the past. As far as fame hunting goes, it is believed that Darcey once appeared on the show Million Dollar Matchmaker. While her name was never mentioned by Patti Stanger, who is the host of the show, the woman looked just like Darcey. The problem here – it might not have been Darcey, after all, she has a twin.

Darcey and Stacey in Twin Life

She did, however, film a pilot for a reality show with her twin sister called Twin Life. You can see the opening promo for the Twin Life program below, which tanked. But it just goes to show she’s been barking up the fame tree for a very long time. It not only features Darcey and Stacey but both of the twins’ ex-husbands and kids are on the screen as well.

Jesse Meester Endures the Wrath of Middle-Aged Woman

Still, there is a theme of fame going on here with Darcey. But is she that desperate to achieve this fame that she would degrade herself on the screen? Or is she that desperate for love? She’s a hard nut to crack as Darcey has made a few quick exits away from Jesse in anger.

She’s done this on social media when bashing Jesse after threatening she was done with him. More recently she’s walked away a few times during Jesse’s visit to the States, again threatening they are through. But is it her quest for love or fame that keeps her coming back?

Temper Not Embellished for 90 Day Fiance

If you think her temper might just be for the sake of the camera, think again. Darcey was arrested along with her twin sister at the beginning of the year after getting into a “cat-fight” at their home. According to Reality Blurb, the police report had the sisters fighting and throwing things.

Darcey and Stacey scream sibling rivalry in this week’s episode when Jesse and Darcey met Stacey for dinner. It didn’t take long for Darcey to put Jesse on the spot and ask which twin sister is the prettiest. He gave them both complements and moved on. Stacey shot down her sister’s attempt at embarrassing Jesse by asking that question.

While describing her relationship with Jesse to her sister, Darcey sounded like a woman on the brink of a divorce. Their relationship is “tumultuous” and has its “ups and downs” Darcey tells her sister. There’s not much there that would offer evidence that this is a budding romance leading into a marriage, which is how Darcey sees it.

Jesse Suddenly “Stepfather”

Darcey has embarrassed herself around every corner and it seems as if Jesse feels the responsibility of apologizing for her. When her two daughters joined Darcey and Jesse for her birthday, she took a picture of her girls with Jesse. She just couldn’t help herself, she had to say to Jesse… “your stepchildren.”

You can feel yourself getting embarrassed for her kids, who were just getting to know Jesse. Not to mention how he looks closer in age to her older daughter than he does Darcey.

90 Day Fiance Desperation and Sadness

Jesse’s maturity level is a few steps above Darcey, but he comes off as a bit arrogant at times. Some fans believe that the show is edited to make him look that way. He does seem to want to bypass all the drama that Darcey offers up. Perhaps he’d be seen as boring if he didn’t throw those zingers in while Darcey is ranting.

While there are two decades between the couple in age, Jesse acts like the older of the two. One of the most desperate scenes of this show comes from Darcey. It is not only desperate but sad as well. She was laying in bed at the hotel begging Jesse to love her after the two had a fight in NYC. You can see the scene in the post below.

These two have invested a vast amount of time building up this relationship online. Then they’ve met in person on two continents along with meeting each others’ families.

It is almost as if Darcey and Jesse don’t want to read the writing on the wall after all this invested time together. They are spending too much energy on trying to save this relationship rather than building one.

There really isn’t a relationship worth saving unless they want to remain penpals online, but Darcey couldn’t even handle that without putting Jesse through much angst. Check back with Soap Dirt often for more 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days spoilers and scoop. 

Roz Zurko

Soaps are an infatuation of mine and reality TV lets me be that fly on the wall when it comes to witnessing all types of behavior, as it never amazes me what people will say and do with the cameras rolling.