‘Bachelor in Paradise’: Carly Waddell Addresses Breastfeeding Stigma after Birth of Second Child

Bachelor in Paradise’s Carly Waddell welcomed her second baby with Evan Bass a week ago. While the two are over the moon about their newest edition, not everything has gone according to plan. Carly has decided to switch to baby formula because the baby wasn’t taking to her breast milk. So, Carly shared the news with her followers and discussed the “stigma” surrounding her decision not to breastfeed.

Bachelor in Paradise: Carly Waddell Gives Birth to Baby Boy

Carly Waddell and Evan Bass welcomed their second child, a little boy, on November 12, 2019. The couple that fell in love on Bachelor in Paradise already has a daughter together. Evan also has three sons from a previous relationship. Now, 1-year-old Bella Bass is the big sister to Charles Wolfe Bass.

Evan and Carly are ecstatic about their little bundle of joy and posted some very cute announcements. Carly joked about attending the CMAs in a hospital gown. Her Bachelor in Paradise husband, Evan, said was focused on the fact that he’ll be referring to his son as “Chuck Bass”. He must be a fan of Gossip Girl.

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When Chuck met Bella. You better believe i had to name a kid Chuck Bass!! His first word shall be “I’m Chuck Bass” xoxo

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Baby Charles Switched to Formula

According to Carly Waddell, her daughter was “a colicky newborn” and “cried for months”. She added that Bella had reoccurring gas pains and threw up. So, she eventually decided to stop breastfeeding in favor of baby formula instead. Carly says the switch did wonders for little Bella and turned her into a “new, happy little baby”.

When the Bachelor in Paradise star gave birth to Charles, she thought she would have a better chance of breastfeeding him. But, as it turns out, the situation was very similar to her daughter’s, so she switched him over to the same formula she gave his older sister. Carly said it ended up being just what he needed because with formula he could stop crying and could relax. She said it makes him smile. It appears that unfortunately baby Charles had an adverse reaction to his mother’s breast milk.

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It’s been a week since Charlie was born, he is the greatest blessing and one of the greatest lessons for me as a mom. I had all these hopes and dreams that postpartum would be easier this time. But I still ache. I’m healing. I’m tried. Bella was such a colicky newborn. She cried and cried for months. Threw up. Had gas pains. I breastfed for months because that’s what I was told was “best”. When I changed Bella to formula, she was a new, happy little baby. This time, I had hopes that Charlie would be different. But it just isn’t the case. I decided to stop breastfeeding and try him on the same formula Bella was on, and within a bottle or two he was so happy. He stopped crying. He could relax. He could sleep. He smiled. There is such a stigma about breastfeeding. If you don’t do it, you don’t care about your children’s health. You don’t love your kids enough. You’re being selfish. You just aren’t being a good enough mom. Honestly, I know my comments will prob be full of people telling me all sorts of things I could have/should have done to make it work for us. But the one huge thing I found this time is that I made a really hard decision within myself as a mom to listen to my gut about what was best for my child. And you know what…it worked. He is soooo happy and that is all that matters. I wanted to be real and thank you guys for checking in with me on how I have been doing this week. It’s been beautiful and painful at times. Thank you for all y’alls love and congratulations. It means SO much to me 😊 #cabbageleavesforthewin

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Bachelor in Paradise Update: Carly Addresses Pressure to Breastfeed

Not only did she express her disappointment in not being able to breastfeed her children, but Carly Waddell also spoke out about the stigma surrounding the subject. Initially, she was reluctant to give her first child formula because of the pressure she felt from her family members and friends to breastfeed.

Carly wrote, that people think that if a parent doesn’t breastfeed then other’s feel like the mother doesn’t care about her baby’s health. She indicates that because of her situation and because her baby’s adverse reaction to breast milk, she feels that formula is a better fit.

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